Saturday, July 4, 2015

Ode To A Friend


It has been a very, very long couple of weeks. One of the people who I admired greatly and who was an incredible supporter for me passed away. I have only known Robin well for a few years, but she was one of those people that you never forget. I have known her since working at Blue Cross and we became better friends in the past 2 years.

Robin and I began the Customer Advocate Specialist position at the same time. We went through training together, and leaned on each other through the struggles of a new position. The days were long, the concepts sometimes difficult, but at the end of the day – I could count on her to have my back, as she did with me. I learned about her love for her family. It was a beautiful thing. I also knew that she was a no nonsense kind of gal. If she had a problem with you, you knew it. Straight shooter.

When I was going through some of the toughest times of my life,  Robin was my cheerleader. She was one of the people that made me realize that life is short. She gave me courage, and made me see that I am not a doormat. I needed to be appreciated and loved – and I needed to be with someone who knows that this is not something to take for granted. My ex-husband took me for granted, and made me feel like I was not worth the effort. I spent many nights at Blue Cross, talking through this with Robin because I didn’t want to go home. I was less than nothing in my mind then. Robin made me realize that to be cared about means that you know you are cared for. You show the other person you care.

Robin left Blue Cross right before my personal D day. I still called her the day I left him, and told her I was ok, and that I had finally done it. It was an incredible rush. There are still not enough words to thank any of the people who led me to where I am now.

I had been to Robin’s home to see her after she left Blue Cross, and she got progressively worse. I was angry with myself for not going to see her when I wanted to after I got back from my trip to Hawaii. Unfortunately, life gets in the way. When I was told that Robin was very bad, and it would not be long, it was one of the hardest things for me to cope with. It hit me that this wonderful person would no longer be the rock for others to lean on. I was able to go see her the Wednesday before she passed away. It was difficult, but I am glad I was able to see Robin one last time.

Talking with her is something I will miss. She gave me advice, shared wonderful stories of her family, told me about some of the trips they took, and let me know that I had a gift. Robin told me that I could make the ordinary beautiful. One of the things she liked most was the photos of my Sunday adventures. She let me know that I could truly help others see the beauty in what we look at every day.

My love and support to the members of her family.

To Robin herself: I miss you a lot, my friend. I will remember the lessons you taught me. I am grateful that I got to know you. When good things happen, I will think of you and smile. I know I have one incredible lady up there, looking down and cheering on my successes. Be at peace. No more pain.


Have a great 4th, my friends.

Angie